A Little Help from Bonhoeffer for Marriages

from Pastor Bill

Saw a Facebook post today of a couple, David and Sheryl, celebrating their 19th anniversary for whom I conducted their wedding in Lodi, Ca.  It brought a smile to my face to see it.  After all, it isn’t easy to be married although for me, without question, it’s the greatest of God’s gifts. I’m thankful that SLC now has an on goiBonhoeffer picng ministry to support marriages and that by it many are being blessed. To further strengthen marriages, I offer this quote from Dietrich Bonhoeffer that reminds us of  what marriage is all about.  It’s from a wedding sermon he wrote in a prison cell.  Dietrich was a Lutheran pastor in Nazi Germany who was imprisoned and later martyred for working against Hitler.  I hope it is a blessing to all who God  has called into the holy estate of marriage.

“God is guiding your marriage. Marriage is more than your love for each other. It has a wedding ringshigher dignity and power, for it is God’s holy ordinance, through which he wills to perpetuate the human race till the end of time. In your love you see only your two selves in the world, but in marriage you are a link in the chain of the generations, which God causes to come and to pass away to his glory, and calls into his kingdom. In your love you see only the heaven of your own happiness, but in marriage you are placed at a post of responsibility towards the world and mankind. Your love is your own private possession, but marriage is more than something personal – it is a status, an office. Just as it is the crown, and not merely the will to rule, that makes the king, so it is marriage, and not merely your love for each other, that joins you together in the sight of God and ring on fingerman. As you first gave the ring to one another and have now received it a second time from the hand of the pastor, so love comes from you, but marriage from above, from God.  As high as God is above and the promise of love. It is not your love that sustains the marriage, but from now on, the marriage that sustains your love.”

Excerpt From: Bonhoeffer, Dietrich. “Letters Papers from Prison.” A Touchstone Book, 1953.  pp. 112-113.

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